I arrived to my date with “Mark” ready to have a fun evening: seeing a show and having a nice dinner. I prepped and primed as best as I could coming right off of work with a sundress and high heels and all. I should have known that the date was going to go down hill when he asked me to drive the 25 minutes away to the city where the theater is. I know it is somewhat bitchy of me but I think that if I guy asks me out to go do something that requires a drive, he should drive.
From there, “Mark” took phone calls during the date, including texting and checking messages during the show itself! I was stunned to see that. Not only is it bad theater etiquette it is bad dating etiquette too. When you are on the first handful of dates, you need to be on your best behavior which doesn’t include texting in the middle of a live show!
Above and beyond that, we literally ran out of things to talk about. I was trying to be polite and ask questions, but I just got to the point where I knew wasn’t interested in him. “Mark” is a very nice guy who seems to have a good heart, but we just don’t have enough common things in common. I guess matching him 20 of 21 Match.com qualifiers doesn’t really mean anything.
Lesson Learned: After a first date if the spark, chemistry or Za Za Zsu isn’t there then follow your instinct. The first moments of meeting someone there needs to be a flash of chemistry and of initial attraction. I am a true believer in the chemistry and spark factor, as it is so important to have that underlying interest as a relationship develops.
Also, there were things on “Mark”‘s profile that I was hesitant about (for example, he is divorced with two young children and that he “never” drinks), but I ignored my initial reaction and my better instinct.
This Super Single Gal is on to the next dating opportunity, prepared and ready to trust my instincts when it comes to love and dating.
Now I have to send a “break-up” e-mail to “Mark”, this should be interesting….