A Single Girl's Hunt for Love

The Blind Date is Set…

Posted by: ZagFan04 on: November 21, 2009

Cross your fingers and wish me luck as I embark on a 100% blind date with the farmer “Daniel” tomorrow night.  I have no idea what he looks like or even who would play him in a movie.  Nerves don’t even begin to describe the potential anxiety I am feeling.

Stay tuned my beloved blog readers!

And for all of you who have a blind dating history, vote in my latest poll!

The Vegetarian and the Rancher

Posted by: ZagFan04 on: November 18, 2009

A Match Made on the Farm?

I have been away my beloved readers.  From work to graduate school plus volunteering and of course podcasting, my blogging updates have fallen to the side.  (Also, I have been waiting for an update of substance to write next.)

This blog entry is based on the true blind date that I potentially have on the map.  Yes folks…. A blind date. I nameless matchmaker (who I will refer to as “Holly”)  has found me a single gent to go on a blind date with.  Here is where I feel that it gets fairly interesting.   You see “Daniel” is a childhood friend of “Holly” who grew up in the same small farming town. (Yup, you read that right: Farming town. Can you imagine my high heels on a farm?)  I am being set up with not only a farmer, but an organic beef rancher.  Under normal circumstances this isn’t very note worthy or even worth discussing.  This time however, I feel that there is one fact about me that  should be noted.  You see, I am (and have been for over ten years)  a vegetarian.  No beef, pork, seafood or chicken for me. And you would think that would turn away a rancher as a potential date, right?  Well, actually  not “Daniel”, who seemed  fairly fine with my dietary decision.   Now this date has been in the potential works for a few weeks now, but  I have now forwarded my contact information along to “Holly” for “Daniel” to call me.

So, the ball is in his court.  If he is interested in going on a date with little awesome me, vegetarian and all,…then  I will hear from him within the next few days.

PS—Many of you may be wondering why I am in fact a vegetarian.  Is it for health/diet or for crazy love of animals?  The answer for me is both actually.   I have always been an animal lover (both big and small) and once I became a vegetarian I rarely think about going back.

PPS—Chemistry.com has turned into a big waste of cash.  Next website to try: eharmony.  The test however takes forever….which will need to be fueled by a good bottle of wine.

My Night as a Goddess

Posted by: ZagFan04 on: November 2, 2009

This single gal hit the town last weekend in celebration of all things spooky, creepy and that go “bump” in the night.  I am referring to Halloween of course, rather than my hum-drum dating life. Dressed as a Roman goddess, I was prepared for the evening with the mantra of  ”What’s the worst that can happen?” (Courtesy of the Penny & Ben Show.  What?? You haven’t listened to the best podcast ever?  You need to ASAP.)

Beginning at a mild house party is where my evening began with a finish dancing until 3 am at the local gay bar.  Essentially, my Halloween had a 180 degree change from start to finish.  In the midst of dancing to “Single Ladies” with new found friends, I took a quick assessment of my overall surroundings and I was struck with numerous ideas to share with you, my reading audience.

First:  Halloween is the one night of the year when you can cut loose and be who you are (or who you want to be.)    Is it surprising that woman have shorter skirts on this one night?  Nope.   Halloween allows people to be who they truly want to be, without fear of humiliation or embarrassment.

Second:  Halloween is the chance to make commentary on pop culture.  I saw multiple costumes referring to H1N1 as well as Kate Gosselin (which had a hysterical wig!).

Third:  Halloween is also the chance to make commentary on where you are in your life, currently.  My costume as a Roman Goddess speaks to my search for love while maintaining ever femininity.    Does a Pope or Nun costume indicate someone doing “soul searching”?  Possibly.

I am also willing to admit that I am reading way to much into the costumes, perhaps they were the last thing left at Value Village.

All in all, one hell of a Halloween.  I had fun being my “alter ego” of the Roman goddess but quite possibly being the goddess for one evening reminded me that I do in fact have that within me already.

You too can Howl at the Moon….

Posted by: ZagFan04 on: October 26, 2009

On the podcast a few weeks ago, Ben and I discussed the idea of what is the guy wearing the wolf t-shirt trying to say in the bar.  Well, this lovely fashion number appeared in pop-cultures highly anticipated Jim and Pam wedding on the Office.  Dwight is about to hit the hotel bar when Michael questioned his choice of duds.  Well according to Dwight, this ”casual social outfit is suggestive to women… because of howling during sex.”  I laughed so hard when I saw this I almost fell out off the couch.  If you have been hankering for your own wolf t-shirt…you are in luck.

Just go to the NBC store here: http://www.fanpop.com/external/8548748

What’s Your Costume Pick?

Posted by: ZagFan04 on: October 26, 2009

I will admit it…I am not a very big fan of Halloween.   At least that is, I am not a fan of the cheesy pumpkins or fake cobwebs.  I am however a fan of dressing up in a fun costume and bringing forth your alter ego for one-night only.

The next podcast for the “Penny & Ben” show will be highlighting funny Halloween costumes as well as mishaps we’ve both had.  This made me wonder, what are the readers and listeners pick for their alter ego this year?

One Hell of a Strike Out

Posted by: ZagFan04 on: October 22, 2009

Ah…

My lovely and curious blog readers.  First and foremost, my deepest apologies for not writing over the course of the past few weeks.  My life (on the professional side) has been incredibly busy.  With traveling, meetings and the ever present podcast, blogging has jumped off my to-do list.   Note:  No new dates have occurred nor do I have any prospects on my horizon.

Although there are no new dating prospects on the horizon, I have one hell of a funny story from my Saturday night last weekend.  Which reminded me a bit of a baseball player striking out. Enjoy…..

It was a typical weekend which included best girl friends in town for a wedding.  Post-reception we all went out to the local college bar to continue in the fun and revelry.

That is when I played the role of “wing-gal” for one of my single friends as she continued to flirt with a very interested gent.  (Essentially, she used me as a deflector with weird-drunk guy, who shall be named “Liam”,  to continue to flirt with possible candidate.)  I introduced myself to “Liam”  who told me that due to his strong Irish blood, he was able to drink anything and everything.  ”Liam”  told me how much he had to drink that evening which had me quickly signal the waitress for one tall glass of water. (At this point, I am just hoping his drunk doesn’t puke on my shoes.)

  • Strike 1: Raging drinker…

“Liam” tells me that he is such a good guy that he traveled to visit his friends, but they are not 21 yet so they can’t join him out for a night on the town.  This tidbit of information had me question Liam just excatly what year in college he is… get this: Junior!

  • Strike 2: He is the same age as my younger sister!

Then out of nowhere, “Liam” asks me to do a favor for him.  He proceeds to ask me to put my glass down on the bar then slap him hard across the face as it “gets him going”.  Other than my jaw dropping to the floor almost instantaneously, I was shocked (which, I will admit is a tough thing to accomplish).

  • That served as the very obvious strike #3: secret fetishes I don’t need to display in a bar!

I told him no fucking way and stormed off in my 4 1/2 inch heels.

No wonder I am still freaking single.  There are major wackos out there!



Happy Birthday to this Single Gal…

Posted by: ZagFan04 on: October 6, 2009

Each year on my birthday I purchase a pair of shoes that border on the edge of ridiculous.  This year, in honor of my hunt for love, I have decided to purchase a pair of shoes that reflects my “wild” side.  Introducing to the world the newest member of my shoe family…

I believe jaw-dropping is a good descriptor, right?  Turning the big 2-8 is so much easier in beautiful shoes like these!

Thank you to everyone for birthday wishes near and far!!

(In case anyone is curious, the heels on these little ladies is a whopping 4 1/2 inches.  Not for the faint of heart.)

Dancing Like Marilyn?

Posted by: ZagFan04 on: October 5, 2009

You all must be sitting on the edge of your seat waiting for the big write up on my burlesque dance class from Friday night.  Well, you avid readers…wait no longer.   My roommate and I had no idea what we were getting ourselves into, let alone who would also be in our dance class.  I was secretly hoping for someone with zero rhythm or ability to “pop” their hips.  (I was also secretly wondering  if should have snuck in a flask of liquid courage…)

After signing in, our instructor gave us our prop for the class a bright pink feather fan.  Fantastic, I don’t feel silly at all now. She told the group (consisting of eight other ladies, none of which were married…just one engaged.) that we would be doing a dance routine to Marilyn Monroe’s song, “I Wanna Be Loved by You“.  The instructor told us that the dance would start off sweet then turn naughty towards the end.  Comfort was key and no one should feel like they have to cross lines too quickly, including feeling comfortable removing (or keeping) clothes on. (Um, excuse me? What the hell did I sign up for?)

We begin learn the dance class with some fairly sexy warm-ups.  I quickly realized that this is not your mother’s dance class. (Well, maybe it is…but sure not my mom!) After warming up, we got into the routine which I found to be fairly simple and easy to grasp.  Towards the end of the class the instructor stepped aside in order to watch the class do the routine to see how we were progressing.

After we ran through the routine (feathers and all), she came up to me to tell me that I was a fantastic dancer and if I ever wanted to become an instructor she could teach me how.

Hmm… maybe I am not so uncoordinated as I originally thought.    The next time I may have to bring some killer high heels to dance in.

Trying Something New…

Posted by: ZagFan04 on: October 1, 2009

In an effort to be constantly trying something new, especially in the realm of dating and such my roommate and I will be taking Burlesque dance classes starting tomorrow.  What that entitles, I have no idea.  They have suggested potentially wearing high heels during the class, which I think I will pass 100%.  Feathers may be involved which sounds fun to me.  Even if it isn’t a life altering experience, hopefully we get a good laugh out of it all.  Who knows, maybe dancing once a week will help build my confidence.. Be on the look out for updates…

In Honor of the Great “Ex” Debate: A Poll

Posted by: ZagFan04 on: September 26, 2009

“Ben” and I had one good discussion highlighting the “Ex” Factor in the most recent attempt to become professional podcasters.   We debated the idea of breakups and ex’s back forth (which you can listen fully to on iTunes, just search “Penny & Ben“).   We discussed the ability of being friends with an ex as well as who actually has the power to post break-up.  I’ll give you a clue to my thoughts… it isn’t the breakee.   The power of a breakup is held in the hands of the individual who called it off. When the breaker-upper called the end of the relationship, I believe that they lose the right to remain friends with their ”ex”.

From the highs and lows of the breakup process, there is no go way to go through a break up without taking the time to mourn the loss and end of the relationship.   

Now, I am interested…what do the beloved readers of the Single Girl’s blog think about being friends post break-up with an ex?   Aren’t you just itching to tell me what you think?  Take this quick poll…

 

 

For the listeners of the podcast, I have to apologize for all of my laughter during episode #7.  Yes, “Ben” and “I” really do have that much fun at podcasting central.

PPS- If you are dealing with a breakup currently…chin up!  Time will help you get through this, along with good wine and friends. I also recommend one of my favorite go-to guide for breakups : “It’s Called a Breakup Because It’s Broken.”  Give yourself time to grieve the breakup and do not let other people dictate how long you need for a breakup period.  Remember, dealing with heartbreak with help you appreciate the “good stuff” when it comes along.